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Alone or All-One

1/10/2016

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"I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments" Oriah Mountain Dreamer. Recently I found myself with lots of solitary time and the above quote seems to summarise my exploration. ​
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Part of me really cherishes such quiet time and is increasingly at ease with my own company, while another part of me at times feels the pain of what Jung termed "existential aloneness". I see existential aloneness as the sense of seperation that we experience when we incarnate into human form. We feel a seperation from Source. I believe this is necessary so we can find our selves again and know who we truly are.  There needs to be relativity, we cannot know our light until we know our darkness.

In truth I have all I need

I am aware of a neediness that is sometimes evident in me, an expectation that the world and the people around me should be different and fulfill my apparent needs. Ultimately, I am also aware that even in this dense place, I always have exactly what I need and when I am open, support comes in unexpected ways, whether it be a ladybug, a sunset, an angelic floating feather or a synchronistic meeting with another.  When I am open to receive without expectation or need, I dance with the universal energy and magic happens, I have everything that I need and more. My heart is full of gratitude.

When I become identified, resist and get absorbed in the pain or loneliness, I cause myself suffering. I recognise the importance of being with such painful feelings, whatever they might be, exploring them and finding the root cause. Through such honest exploration I can move through and beyond the source pain and find joy with the realisation that we are All One. I become whole within myself!

Most important relationship

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​The most important relationship we have is the one we have with ourselves, this is the basis from which all other relationships emanate.  A positive relationship with myself evokes a sense of completeness that I can then bring into my interactions with others. Time alone helps me find and get to know my true self and connect with my authentic beingness without external distractions.  I am able to give so much more of myself as a result of spending invaluable time alone. 

I like these words by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
“In order to converse with the wild feminine*, a woman (or a man) must temporarily leave the world and inhabit a state of aloneness in the oldest sense of the word. Long ago the word alone was treated as 2 words – all one. To be all one meant to be wholly one, to be in oneness, either essentially or temporarily. That is precisely the goal of solitude, to be all one.”
*Within the context I interpreted wild feminine as the intuitive aspect of self.

Message from The Little Prince

The evening after I wrote this article, I was synchronistically drawn to watch the movie The Little Prince based on the novel by Antoine De Saint-Exupery. Discovering the movie felt like a beautiful affirmation, illustrating that the Universe provides answers and what I might need.  There were many themes around being alone within the movie.  The little girl gets upset when those she loves are about to leave.  The pilot in the movie tells her "Look with your heart and I will always be with you" and the fox can see the Prince when he looks with the heart and will never be lonely again, for as it states in the story... 
"It is only with the heart that you can see rightly.
What is essential is invisible to the eye
"

Never Alone

And of course no matter how alone or lonely we might feel, when we look with our hearts there is an angelic presence that surrounds us and gives me comfort!  I feel immense gratitude for the beauty of angels in my life!
With love, Fiona
11 Comments
Angela
1/11/2016 06:43:40 am

Thanks for sharing this beautiful and thoughtful expression of being at one with aloneness. I like my alone time too. As an introvert I seek energy from my inner resource quite naturally, and know and love that quiet space within.
But in a highly socialized and competitive world it can feel challenging to value quiet because it can appear as an unproductive and self indulgent time spent on self. Thanks for discussing quiet time as it feels important we honour that joyful space because it does have value. It's a resource that can bring peace and joy back in our lives. Ax

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Fiona
1/11/2016 08:35:41 am

Hi Angela, Thank you kindly for your comments! Yes, in the busy world we live in, taking time out and having time alone can be judged as selfish or time wasted. Yet, it is so important to honour our needs, so that we can return refreshed and of more benefit to the world we interact with. The resulting peace and joy is priceless. Love Fi x

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Michelle Diaz
1/12/2016 10:00:19 am

I am beginning to embrace alone times and use them to sit with all those emotions I distract myself from. Some are painful and I observe my tendency to run from them and do do do! But Aloneness is a gift when it is used to scour the heart and mind and find the honey pot within <3

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Fiona
1/12/2016 02:13:40 pm

Hi Michelle, I hear you and notice my distraction tendancies too, especially when I get into a rhythmn of being busy and doing, it can be difficult to stop and be still! And yes, time alone and quiet is a huge gift. Love to you, Fi x

Open link
1/12/2016 10:04:23 pm

It's a deeply inspiring post Fiona. It really catches the essence of a vital exploration on the path - how aloneness encourages the quest for all-oneness. Awesome!

Open

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Fiona
1/13/2016 09:04:22 am

Thank you Open and thanks for sharing on the Openhandweb.org too.
Love, Fiona

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Amy
2/14/2017 03:21:51 am

Lovely article that resonates. Reminds me to be more conscious of the all one when I am alone; it's easy to be alone but still lost in the matrix, I'm working with spending more time in conscious connection in my alone time which is far more restorative :) loving and beautiful. Love Amy

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Fiona link
2/14/2017 01:41:03 pm

Hi Amy, I'm delighted that the article resonates with you. What you share is so true, we can be so distracted and disconnected even when we are alone, love the contemplation of conscious connection in alone time - so invaluable :) With love to you, Fiona

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Alma
1/4/2018 09:16:36 pm

Thanks for the read! If a human cannot be alone how could that human ever interact? I believe it´s as simple as that. Too many people seem to believe it´s the other way round. Which it is not. Love Thy Own Solitude and you will look at people around you from the perspective of depth and true strength. The individual is what make up the many, not the other way round. Another word for it is maturity.

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Fiona
1/6/2018 10:27:17 am

Hi Alma,
Thank you kinldy for the great comment. It is as simple as that, if we are not okay with our relationship with ourselves, how can we deeply connect and feel love for another. I like contemplating your statement 'The individual is what make up the many, not the other way round.' - quite profound - thank you for sharing.
With love and blessings, Fiona

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Dominatrix in Coral Springs link
11/17/2024 12:01:16 am

This is a great postt thanks

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