Acceptance of what is
There is a book by Mary O Malley with a fantastic title - "What's in the way is the way". She asks the question what if your uncomfortable challenges were for you? What if they are the fuel for your awakening and becoming. I have frequently found that situations that I would not choose, have been my greatest life lessons and most valuable gifts. The timeless poet Rumi states "Seek not for love, rather to remove the blocks to the awareness of love's presence." So one of the keys to dealing with life's challenges is acceptance of what is, exactly as it is. Remember that through the natural law of attraction, you have drawn the perfect circumstances to you for your evolution and growth.
"So your darkness, rather than being a mistake,
is Life coming to you in a form that will show you
the power of being curious about what is
rather that the unconsciousness of fixing, changing, getting rid of or rising above.
Your challenges are here to show you
that healing isn't about stopping the game of struggle;
healing is about exploring it." Mary O Malley
Be totally honest with yourself
"Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows
who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honourably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond."
The only way out is through
By going to the heart of our pain and feeling it deeply, we enable it to shift and release. Openhand's 9 Step Process can be really helpful in navigating our way through such experiences. It is helpful to remain mindful of the breath to assist in keeping us centre and grounded. Be with what is in all it's fullness, while remembering that it's all okay exactly as it is. When you get to the depth of your pain, it can dissolve all by itself and soul can infuse through you. It's not always easy or straightforward, so if it becomes too intense and/or prolonged, take some time out and find some joy and lightness again. It may be that there may be a overspill initially if you have stored emotions or trauma over a long period of time. Seek the support of a trusted friend or therapist if you need to or call on the benevolent guidance of the Universe. You will come out the other side lighter and freer, what else is there to do?
Fiona is an Openhand Facilitator, reflexologist and experienced doula. She is passionate about living true to her heart and soul and empowering others to do the same. She runs various workshops related to women's issues, being childless/free and loves joining women in circle. Her website is www.fionareilly.co.uk or click here for her facebook page.